Let me start by saying this post is for those who have given their hearts to Jesus. This one’s for the believer. This post is aimed to help you, not condemn you.
If you grew up in church, chances are you’ve heard countless sermons about sexual sin and the consequences of living a sexually immoral lifestyle. Beyond hearing that it can lead you to hell, were you ever taught the benefits of right living here on earth? Maybe you were, maybe you weren’t. You might even be wondering, “Why do I believe what I believe?” Sadly, many Christians were never taught the why behind God’s instructions.
I think it’s unfortunate that so many believers view God’s Word as a set of burdensome rules that suck the fun out of life. That belief is common in religion and comes from a “religious” mindset. BUT, through a real relationship with Jesus, you can understand that every instruction from God is for our benefit—spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically. Through Jesus, I’ve come to see that every command in the Word is an expression of His love for me.
“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it overflows).”
—John 10:10 (AMPC)
Jesus came to give us abundant life—a life to enjoy. God’s plan for us is good (Jeremiah 29:11), but we have a role to play: not just to know His Word but to obey it. Obedience brings His promises to life. Everything He asks of us leads to peace, love, and prosperity.
If you’re a believer, you’ve been bought at a high price. You are redeemed, covered by the blood, and made righteous through Jesus Christ.
“The effect of righteousness will be peace, and the result of righteousness, quietness and trust forever.”
—Isaiah 32:17
Being in right standing with God doesn’t mean we can pull the “salvation card” and live however we want. Righteous living includes honoring God with our bodies—and that means sex within the covenant of marriage.
Why Did God Design Sex for Marriage?
To put it plainly:
- For your emotional, physical, and overall well-being
- For your peace of mind
- For your prosperity
A truly righteous life leads to peace and prosperity—they go hand in hand.
Proverbs 10:22 (NLT) “The blessing of the Lord makes a person rich, and he adds no sorrow with it.”
Don’t believe the lie that you can’t live this way, or that no one does. You can, by the power of the Holy Spirit living in you.
Don’t believe the lie that says, “I’ve messed up too much. It’s too late.”
It’s never too late. His mercies are new every morning.
“Little children, you are from God and have overcome them, for he who is in you is greater than he who is in the world.” (1 John 4:4)
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11)
God wants you to live above sin. You are a new creation. Jesus didn’t die for you to live in shame or bondage—He died so you could live an abundant, peaceful life. And the Holy Spirit will always meet you where you are and lovingly lead you into truth.
Examine Your Life
Take a moment today to examine your life and relationships. Ask the Holy Spirit what He’s saying to you. Maybe there are boundaries you need to set, people you need to lovingly distance yourself from, or habits you need to break. Don’t ignore the nudge.
“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24)
“You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.” (1 Corinthians 6:19–20)
“For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery.” (Galatians 5:1)
“The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; His mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is Your faithfulness.” (Lamentations 3:22–23)
You Can Pray:
“Lord, thank You for leading me and guiding me into all truth—Your Word is truth. I ask You to search me and know me. See if there’s any hurtful way in me and lead me in the everlasting way. Today, I commit to live righteously in every area of my life, and I receive Your peace and assurance in return. Amen.”
Take God at His Word. Cut out the toxic relationships. Set the boundaries. Ignore that DM. Don’t pick up the phone. Do whatever you need to do—and watch how God redeems the time in your life.
And when I say “cut out toxic relationships,” I don’t mean be rude. You can take a step back in a spirit of kindness and love. Some people may not be toxic, but they’re still holding you back from the life God is calling you to. And that’s okay. Some people are only meant to be in your life for a season. Be open to that. God is faithful to bring new, life-giving relationships when we let go of the ones He’s asked us to release.
I love you!
You are capable of GREAT things!